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#JamesDonaldsononMentalHealth – #SuicidePrevention At #Church: ‘It’s OK To Have A #Therapist And #Jesus, Too’

TaMara Breeding-Goode
TaMara Breeding-Goode knows what it means to deal with mental health issues and feel like you have to battle through it alone. She created Project WINGS Mental Health and Wellness Ministry to be a safe place for those who have been affected by suicide and mental health issues. (Photo/Tyler Fenwick)

TaMara Breeding-Goode wrote her first #suicide letter when she was 11 years old. She was sexually abused, bullied and dealt with #mentalhealthissues ranging from #depression to post-traumatic stress disorder. Breeding-Goode’s mother found the letter, and she didn’t try to kill herself then. She did five years later, though, and has done so a total of four or five times.

Now 48 years old, Breeding-Goode is trying to tell children, teenagers and adults that #mentalillness and #suicidalthoughts aren’t things they have to deal with alone. She founded Project WINGS Mental Health and Wellness Ministry to be a safe place for those who have been affected by #suicide and #mentalhealthissues.

“I asked God that if I was able to survive that I would be able to give back to other people,” Breeding-Goode said.

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 Welcome to the “next chapter” of my life… being a voice and an advocate for #mentalhealthawarenessandsuicideprevention, especially pertaining to our younger generation of students and student-athletes.
Getting men to speak up and reach out for help and assistance is oe of my passions. Us men need to not suffer in silence or drown our sorrows in alcohol, hang out at bars and strip joints, or get involved with drug use.
Having gone through a recent bout of #depression and #suicidalthoughts myself, I realize now, that I can make a huge difference in the lives of so many by sharing my story, and by sharing various resources I come across as I work in this space.  #http://bit.ly/JamesMentalHealthArticle

WINGS stands for We Inspire, Nurture, Guide and Support. The project has been at Scott United Methodist Church, on the corner of East 22nd Street and Dr. Andrew J. Brown Avenue, for the last two years. Those who attend have options, including a group for youth and a group for people who have lost loved ones to #suicide.

What Breeding-Goode has learned both from her own experience and by working with people, including teenagers, who struggle with mental health issues and have #suicidalthoughts is that for many, “the stressors outweigh their coping skills,” she said. Much of Project WINGS then is about teaching people how to get through what Breeding-Goode calls those “moments,” where a #suicidal thought surfaces and it seems like killing yourself is the only way out.

“This, too, shall pass,” she said, recalling the famous Persian adage that reflects on the temporary nature of the human condition. “Don’t take yourself away today when there’s a promise tomorrow.”

Those who attend the meetings and workshops learn about different ways to cope with the stressors that threaten to become too much. There’s journaling, art therapy, music therapy and meditation.

Alleyah Getter, 14, said she developed her own coping skills through the program after losing three friends to #suicide and thinking of harming herself. She likes to sketch eyes and draw cartoon characters. She said the project made her feel like she found her purpose, which is to “help people out with their problems, to show them that they can make it, too.”

Project WINGS leaders also encourage attendees to get professional help with a therapist or physician.

“We preach that to the children and adults,” Breeding-Goode said. “One of our sayings is, ‘It’s OK to have a #therapist and #Jesus, too.’”

This is where professionals and advocates worry about initiatives such as Project WINGS that are based primarily in a religious setting. Especially in #AfricanAmerican and other marginalized communities, religious leaders are tasked with much more than preaching the Sunday service because churches have historically served as a physical and spiritual refuge from persecution.

Kelsey Steuer, the state’s area director for the #AmericanFoundationforSuicidePrevention, said rather than pulling people away from churches, it’s more important to make sure religious leaders know enough about #mentalhealth and resources so they can be helpful.

“It’s a big responsibility on their shoulders,” she said. “… We can’t expect them to know everything,” but they can at least know what resources are available.

Breeding-Goode said one of her goals is to take the project out into the community because she understands not everyone is comfortable in a religious setting. She also understands religion can taint what people think of their own #mentalhealth, since it’s common in the #AfricanAmerican church to be taught that people who kill themselves go to hell or that praying hard enough will take away the pain.

“I know in the minority community it’s such a stigma about getting #mentalhealthprofessional help,” she said, “and a lot of that has to do with being perceived as weak or admitting that you even have a #mentalhealth condition, let alone admitting that you have been thinking about taking your life. All it does is compound those negative feelings. It compounds the shame.”

Contact staff writer Tyler Fenwick at 317-762-7853. Follow him on Twitter @Ty_Fenwick.

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