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#JamesDonaldson on #MentalHealth – Too Many #Men Ignore Their #Depression, Phobias, Other #MentalHealthIssues

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By Joseph Harper

It was another Monday morning and my first patient of the day walked in. He was a man in his mid-30s who came to see me for #stress and #anxiety. He appeared nervous and had trouble getting his words out. And the thing I remember most — which I see again and again with many of the #men I treat — was his inability to maintain eye contact with me. It’s a telltale sign of fear and shame.

Many #men recently have become better at taking control of their physical health, being more heart healthy and getting preventive screenings such as colonoscopies as they get older, but when it comes to their #mentalhealth, too many #men still struggle, lagging way behind #women.

According to the #NationalInstituteofMentalHealth (#NIMH), the prevalence of #mentalillnesses in #men is often lower than #women. The #NIMH also says that #men with #mentalillnesses are less likely to have received #mentalhealthtreatment than #women. This poses interesting questions: Are #men truly experiencing fewer #mentalhealthproblems, or are they more likely to ignore them and hope they go away?

My career in #mentalhealth spans 25 years as a social worker, therapist, hospital administrator, adjunct faculty member at the University of Southern California, and presently the executive director of a facility that specializes in comprehensive #mentalhealth and substance abuse treatment programs. I have worked with thousands of #men in both one-on-one and group settings. I am convinced the statistics are skewed and the number of #men who struggle and fail to get help is much greater than we have been led to believe.

I have watched mothers and wives literally drag the #men they love into my office. I often struggle with some #male #patients to pull information about their emotional issues out of them because they are so reluctant to speak. Others simply downplay their problems saying things like, “It’s not really a big deal,” or “My wife is blowing this out of proportion.” Then there are the #men who are simply embarrassed and ask, “Nobody will ever know I was here, right?”

Too many men think they are supposed to be strong or macho all the time — even when in pain. For many, it would be unimaginable, intolerable for anyone to know they were battling anxiety, depression, or were bogged down by their emotions. Many of my #male #patients also seem to believe that because they are not physically ill they are not truly sick.

These incorrect beliefs keep many #men from getting the help they need for their #mentalhealth. In 2021, for anyone, #men or #women, to believe that #mentalhealth is something to be ignored or that it is not real is both unfathomable and dangerous. It adds to the #stigma, can push a #patient who is already struggling with a diagnosis deeper into denial and prevent him from getting treatment.

In addition, it can condemn the sufferer to unnecessary emotional pain that can harm their quality of life, their health and their ability to work.

When it comes to #mentalhealth, there are some important facts that all #men need to know:

Never be embarrassed

I had a #male #patient who was terrified to drive on the highway. His recovery with therapy was going well, and he got to the point that he could drive small distances on the highway. But one day, 10 miles between highway exits, he had a major panic attack and pulled over to the side of the road. Almost an hour later, a state trooper pulled behind him to see if he needed assistance. My #patient, feeling embarrassed and shaken up, explained his phobia to the trooper, who thankfully was able to empathize. The trooper’s wife also suffered with a driving phobia. The trooper safely escorted my #patient to the next exit.

The point of the story: We all have our struggles in life. Never be embarrassed to ask for help. Conditions such as #anxiety and #depression are much more common than you realize, and they don’t discriminate. They are often deeply rooted in brain chemistry and chemical imbalances. The #pandemic hasn’t helped. These conditions can take a toll on anyone regardless of sex, race, religion, geographical location or anything else.

You can’t see it, but it is very real

If you were experiencing chest pains, you would call an ambulance or go to the emergency room. If you broke your arm or leg, you would have a cast and walk around in crutches. But #mentalillness is usually not visible. Just because you can’t see it doesn’t mean it’s not real. It is real, and it can be dangerous if not properly treated. #Anxiety, #depression and other #mentalhealthproblems can lead to high blood pressure, weaker immune systems, stomach issueschronic fatiguechanges in weightsubstance abuse and even #suicide. If you think your #mentalhealthproblems are just going to vanish on their own or go away like the common cold, you are very mistaken.

You can recover

These days, there are some amazing treatment options when it comes to #mentalhealth, including different forms of psychotherapy, different classes of medications and alternative methods such as yoga, acupuncture, meditation and mindfulness. No matter how bad your condition is and even if you feel extremely lost and hopeless right now, I promise you that you can get better. I have seen #men severely consumed by #mentalillness and even housebound who — with help — have been able to take control of their lives and recover.

Signs something is wrong

Many #men will make excuses when things aren’t going well, but there are some signs that should not be ignored. These include changes in mood, including anger outbursts or long periods of sadness that don’t pass, changes in appetite, gaining or losing weight, feeling hopeless and losing interest in activities that are usually enjoyable, feeling overly stressed and anxious, being unable to leave the house or avoiding situations in which being able to leave might be difficult, no longer wanting to socialize, having thoughts of harming yourself or taking your life, experiencing a decline in concentration and job performance, turning to substance abuse, and having unexplained physical symptoms such as stomach aches and headaches. It should be pointed out that these signs that help is needed apply to #women as well as #men.

Ways to get help

Whatever you do, just do something. Talk to someone, be it a close friend, family member, professional in the #mentalhealth field or family #doctor. Online resources, such as those offered by the #NIMH and the #Anxiety and #Depression Association of America can provide detailed information about #mentalhealth for #patients and their families. Many #men feel more comfortable doing online therapy sessions. Look into websites such as TalkSpace.com and BetterHealth.

In-person and online support groups are also helpful. You can check with the national organization for your particular #mentalhealthcondition to find one. I also recommend Support Groups Central, which can point you in the direction of an online support group for your particular condition. Focus on self-help such as meditation, #stress relief, muscle relaxation and physical activity — all of which have been shown to help reduce #anxiety and #depression. In an emergency, don’t forget the #NationalSuicidePreventionLifeline at 800-273-8255.

#JamesDonaldson notes:

Welcome to the “next chapter” of my life… being a voice and an advocate for #mentalhealthawarenessandsuicideprevention, especially pertaining to our younger generation of students and student-athletes.

Getting men to speak up and reach out for help and assistance is one of my passions. Us men need to not suffer in silence or drown our sorrows in alcohol, hang out at bars and strip joints, or get involved with drug use.

Having gone through a recent bout of #depression and #suicidalthoughts myself, I realize now, that I can make a huge difference in the lives of so many by sharing my story, and by sharing various resources I come across as I work in this space.  #http://bit.ly/JamesMentalHealthArticle

The takeaway

Educating #men about the importance of #mentalhealth is not just a priority. According to the #AmericanFoundationforSuicidePrevention, men died by suicide 3.63 times more often than #women, with middle-aged White #men having been particularly vulnerable. The good news is when #mentalhealth intervention begins early — in other words when you just begin to notice symptoms and before they severely limit your ability to function or engage in your day-to-day activities — and the right combination of treatments are put in place, #men will feel better and #suicideideation is dramatically decreased. The key is encouraging men who may not naturally reach out to get the help they need when they need it.

Joseph Harper is the executive director of Comprehensive #BehavioralHealth Center in East St. Louis, Ill. He is an adjunct faculty member in social work at the University of Southern California and an advocate for men’s #mentalhealth.

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