I’ve been saying for years that the only true way for people of other races to really build a true friendship, is to break bread together.
My own personal motto has always been, “for a meal… I’ll be there!”
And, in doing that, I’ve built dozens of true friendships through the years, especially with white people, as I’ve been welcomed into their homes, to meet the family and kids, to enjoy a home cooked meal, and talk and get to know each other, below the surface talk that we’re all so used to.
How many of you have ever had a person (black person especially) of another race, culture to your home for a sit down meal and conversation? I’m not talking about meeting at the local coffee shop, that doesn’t count the same.
When you open your home, you give others a glimpse into your world and home life. How your home is decorated, the neighborhood that you live in, the neighbors who might drop by, your kids and pets. It’s easy to spend 2 – 3 hours together, rather than a quick 30 minutes at a coffee shop.
I encourage all of us to do these kinds of friendship building. I put the impetus on white people, because blacks already live in a white dominated society, and we can’t escape it. Whites can escape our reality, simply by closing their doors or minds to it.
White America hasn’t had the need (especially since WWII) to learn about other cultures, or even learn other languages, and so they don’t know about that (in general of course). Communities of color and immigrants have had to learn English, American/White culture in order to survive in America.
But in order for us to ever really “get along and learn about each other, and make true friendships” this is something that we really need to do.
America was built on the “melting pot” concept, but that has never really happened. Perhaps this approach can help with that.
I’d appreciate your comments if you care leave me one.
Or better yet, have me over to your home for a meal. (smile)