Welcome to the “next chapter” of my life… being a voice and an advocate for #mentalhealthawarenessandsuicide prevention, especially pertaining to our younger generation of students and student-athletes.
Getting men to speak up and reach out for help and assistance is one of my passions. Us men need to not suffer in silence or drown our sorrows in alcohol, hang out at bars and strip joints, or get involved with drug use.
Having gone through a recent bout of #depression and #suicidalthoughts myself, I realize now, that I can make a huge difference in the lives of so many by sharing my story, and by sharing various resources I come across as I work in this space. #http://bit.ly/JamesMentalHealthArticle
#KellyCatlin, a member of the U.S. women’s pursuit team that won a silver medal during the 2016 #OlympicGames, died Thursday night at age 23.
Her death left her father describing “unbelievable” pain and her sister saying, “I want the world to know there was a human being underneath that hard shell.”
Catlin died in her on-campus residence at Stanford University; her family members said she died by suicide.
“There isn’t a minute that goes by that we don’t think of her and think of the wonderful life she could have lived,” her father, Mark Catlin, told VeloNews. “There isn’t a second in which we wouldn’t freely give our lives in exchange for hers. The hurt is unbelievable.”
Catlin was one in a set of triplets; her sister, Christine, wrote in an email to The Washington Post that Kelly Catlin was “a really special person — kind, funny, empathetic, and talented at literally everything she did. She just felt like she couldn’t say no to everything that was asked of her and this was her only escape.”
A graduate student at Stanford, Catlin was pursuing a degree in computational and mathematical engineering while training for track cycling as a member of the national team and racing as a professional road cyclist. She also excelled at the violin and as an artist.
“Everything she did, she was the best at when we were little kids,” Christine Catlin said in a phone interview Sunday night. “Sports, violin, and she casually picked up cycling. We were the Catlins, so we were this force.”
Colin Catlin, the third triplet, said that he helped push his sister into cycling and that “she didn’t really want to, but she started winning things and she likes winning things.” He also helped spur her interest in data science.
“I always saw myself as the planner and she was the doer,” he said in a phone interview. “I could always see the three of us taking over the world. We were a massive ball of energy, and we supported each other in everything.”
Control was harder to come by for Catlin after crashes late last year in which she broke her arm and sustained a concussion, according to family members.
“She couldn’t train as well as she used to,” Christine Catlin said. “She had really bad headaches and was sensitive to light. Then she tried to commit suicide in January. … She had written this lengthy email (to her family) and said her thoughts were racing all the time. She was suicidal, her thinking was really dark and she had had taken to nihilism.
We called police the moment we got the email, and they got there in time to save her that time.”
After that incident, Kelly Catlin’s family focused on her recovery, and she convinced them she was getting better, according to her siblings.
“Just a week or two ago, we were making plans and I was optimistic about her future,” Colin Catlin said. “She did have plans for the future, it turned out. Her plans.”
“The thing that haunts me is that she called me about a week and a half before (she died) and we talked for like 2.5 hours and she opened up to me about her whole life,” Christine Catlin said.
In a recent VeloNews blog post on how she managed three intense pursuits, Catlin had written that she sometimes felt as if she needed “to time-travel to get everything done.
And things still slip through the cracks.
“This is probably the point when you’ll expect me to say something cliche like, ‘Time management is everything.’ Or perhaps you’re expecting a nice, encouraging slogan like, ‘Being a student only makes me a better athlete!’ After all, I somehow make everything work, right? Sure. Yeah, that’s somewhat accurate. But the truth is that most of the time, I don’t make everything work. It’s like juggling with knives, but I really am dropping a lot of them. It’s just that most of them hit the floor and not me.”
Colin Catlin wrote Friday on Facebook that Kelly Catlin “was the one person I had shared almost my entire life with, and I shall miss her terribly.”
Catlin, an Arden Hills, Minn., native who had earned undergraduate degrees in biomedical engineering and Chinese from the University of Minnesota, helped the U.S. team win three consecutive world titles in pursuit between 2016 and 2018. She won bronze in the individual pursuit at the track cycling world championships in 2017 and 2018.
“We are deeply saddened by Kelly’s passing,” Rob DeMartini, the president and CEO of USA Cycling, said in a statement. “We will all miss her dearly. Kelly was more than an athlete to us and she will always be part of the USA Cycling family.”
Her sister described her feelings as “mostly numb” because “it feels like we went through the grieving process the first time she did this. It feels so unreal, but I’m glad that after her first attempt we had the chance to be there and let her know how much we cared.”
James Donaldson is a Washington State University graduate (’79). After an outstanding basketball career with WSU, he went on to play professional basketball in the NBA with the Seattle Supersonics, San Diego/L.A. Clippers, Dallas Mavericks, New York Knicks, and Utah Jazz. He also played for several teams in the European Leagues in Spain, Italy, and Greece, and he toured with The Harlem Globetrotters to wrap up his career. James was an NBA All-Star in 1988 while playing center for the Dallas Mavericks. In 2006, James was inducted into the Pac-10 Sports Hall of Fame and also the Washington State University Athletic Hall of Fame. In 2010, James was elected as a board member for the NBA Retired Players Association.
James frequently conducts speaking engagements (motivational, inspirational, educational) for organizations, schools, and youth groups.
In 2010, James was the recipient of the NBA Legends of Basketball ABC Award, awarded for outstanding contributions in Athletics–Business–Community.
He believes in being a role model for success and professionalism to the scores of young people to whom he devotes so much of his time. He currently serves on several boards and committees and is a member of many organizations.
James believes in developing relationships that create a “Win-Win” environment for everyone involved, and in being the best he can be!
For more information about James Donaldson or to request he speak at your event, contact him at:
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James Donaldson is the author of “Standing Above The Crowd” and “Celebrating Your Gift of Life” and founder of the Your Gift of Life Foundation which focuses on mental health awareness and suicide prevention, especially pertaining to our school aged children and men.
If you’re interested in having James come and speak to your group of young adults, business entrepreneurs, aspiring political and community leaders, and athletic teams, please contact him at jamesd@yourgiftoflife.org and or leave a personal message for him at 1-800-745-3161. Keep up with him and read about how he is reaching out and making a difference in the lives of so many around the world at www.yourgiftoflife.org