Did you know there are four different personality traits pertaining to conversation?
– relaters
– analyzers
– director
– socializer
The mistake most people make in communication, is that they treat everyone else, the way they perceive themselves to be. Truth is, 75% of the people you relate with, will probably be in one of the three other categories that you’re not. You have to figure out an efficient way to communicate with them, and they with you.
Nature always finds a way to have balance and temperament. For example, typically, a director type, will be matched with someone who is much more of a social/introvert to type.
A person who asks questions, has control. It is one of the keys to “power in communication”.
– ask “open ended questions”.
This is a Brian Tracy classic, in regards to tips and advice on how to be a more effective. It’s a lot of “commonsensical” concepts, that if we were thinking of things other than ourselves all the time, will pretty much come naturally.
Such as “seek to understand, then be understood”, “be a listener”, try to share a conversation with someone that you’re engaged with, etc.
In this day and age of social media, and everyone glued to their high-tech devices, this might just be a “good reminder” to all of us on how to put all those gadgets down for a few minutes, and have a engaging, enjoyable conversation with those around us.
Now that the New Year is upon us, this is always a good time to do some “fine tuning” on ourselves, and this book will go a long ways to helping you accomplish just that!
http://www.audible.com/pd/Self-Development/Communication-Audiobook/B002V19Z7A
James Donaldson is a Washington State University graduate (’79). After an outstanding basketball career with WSU, he went on to play professional basketball in the NBA with the Seattle Supersonics, San Diego/L.A. Clippers, Dallas Mavericks, New York Knicks, and Utah Jazz. He also played for several teams in the European Leagues in Spain, Italy, and Greece, and he toured with The Harlem Globetrotters to wrap up his career. James was an NBA All-Star in 1988 while playing center for the Dallas Mavericks. In 2006, James was inducted into the Pac-10 Sports Hall of Fame and also the Washington State University Athletic Hall of Fame. In 2010, James was elected as a board member for the NBA Retired Players Association.
James frequently conducts speaking engagements (motivational, inspirational, educational) for organizations, schools, and youth groups.
In 2010, James was the recipient of the NBA Legends of Basketball ABC Award, awarded for outstanding contributions in Athletics–Business–Community.
He believes in being a role model for success and professionalism to the scores of young people to whom he devotes so much of his time. He currently serves on several boards and committees and is a member of many organizations.
James believes in developing relationships that create a “Win-Win” environment for everyone involved, and in being the best he can be!
For more information about James Donaldson or to request he speak at your event, contact him at:
www.StandingAboveTheCrowd.com
JamesD@StandingAboveTheCrowd.com
1-800-745-3161 (voicemail & fax)
James Donaldson is the author of “Standing Above The Crowd” and “Celebrating Your Gift of Life” and founder of the Your Gift of Life Foundation which focuses on mental health awareness and suicide prevention, especially pertaining to our school aged children and men.
If you’re interested in having James come and speak to your group of young adults, business entrepreneurs, aspiring political and community leaders, and athletic teams, please contact him at jamesd@yourgiftoflife.org and or leave a personal message for him at 1-800-745-3161. Keep up with him and read about how he is reaching out and making a difference in the lives of so many around the world at www.yourgiftoflife.org
