This is a really good audiobook in regards to “why men are the way they are”. The book goes into a series of ongoing questions asking the questions, and then the authors are giving the answers as to why they think men are the way they are. It’s a nice dialogue that goes back and forth throughout the book.
Questions such as:
About Men:
- How can I get him to express his feelings before he becomes angry?
- Why are the men I am attracted to the most difficult to get along with?
- Why are the best men the most afraid of commitment?
- Why are men so preoccupied with sports?
- Why can’t a man be a friend before a sex partner?
- Why are men such jerks?
About Women:
- Why do women say they’d like to hear my feelings but then withdraw when they hear my feelings?
- If women are so liberated, why do the most attractive ones still expect me to ask them out, pay for dinner, take all the sexual initiatives, and call them in the morning?
- Why are the women who earn the most the least interested in commitment?
- Why are the women I’m most attracted to the most difficult to get along with?
- Why is a woman who supports just herself called a “career woman” while a man who supports just himself is called a “playboy”?
- Why are men denied equal opportunity to the children after divorce?
- Why do most married women have the option to work or raise children, while their husbands have the option to work or work?
As we all know, relationships are very dicey, fragile and very vulnerable. Men for the most part, aren’t accustomed to showing their true feelings, and they feel obligated to perform certain roles within relationships. Men feel obligations (to fulfill certain roles), whereas for the most part, women have choices. There is no doubt men have different ideas and roles about relationships than women do, (and societal) expectations upon them as well. Keeping them confined to certain spaces that they feel they need to be.
All hope is not lost though, as men are accumulating more and more information and knowledge about “what makes them who they are” they are now able to more readily apply to a relationship that he feels good about. Of course, relationships that he does not feel so good about, he will continue to spiral downward and basically the relationship eventually coming to an end of both partners being very unhappy with relationship.
I highly recommend this book to women in particular (and men in general) in order to help both sexes better understand “why men are the way they are”. It can be a very helpful and insightful opportunity to learn a few more things, and will go a long ways towards helping your relationship on both ends of the spectrum.
James Donaldson is a Washington State University graduate (’79). After an outstanding basketball career with WSU, he went on to play professional basketball in the NBA with the Seattle Supersonics, San Diego/L.A. Clippers, Dallas Mavericks, New York Knicks, and Utah Jazz. He also played for several teams in the European Leagues in Spain, Italy, and Greece, and he toured with The Harlem Globetrotters to wrap up his career. James was an NBA All-Star in 1988 while playing center for the Dallas Mavericks. In 2006, James was inducted into the Pac-10 Sports Hall of Fame and also the Washington State University Athletic Hall of Fame. In 2010, James was elected as a board member for the NBA Retired Players Association.
James frequently conducts speaking engagements (motivational, inspirational, educational) for organizations, schools, and youth groups.
In 2010, James was the recipient of the NBA Legends of Basketball ABC Award, awarded for outstanding contributions in Athletics–Business–Community.
He believes in being a role model for success and professionalism to the scores of young people to whom he devotes so much of his time. He currently serves on several boards and committees and is a member of many organizations.
James believes in developing relationships that create a “Win-Win” environment for everyone involved, and in being the best he can be!
For more information about James Donaldson or to request he speak at your event, contact him at:
www.StandingAboveTheCrowd.com
JamesD@StandingAboveTheCrowd.com
1-800-745-3161 (voicemail & fax)
James Donaldson is the author of “Standing Above The Crowd” and “Celebrating Your Gift of Life” and founder of the Your Gift of Life Foundation which focuses on mental health awareness and suicide prevention, especially pertaining to our school aged children and men.
If you’re interested in having James come and speak to your group of young adults, business entrepreneurs, aspiring political and community leaders, and athletic teams, please contact him at jamesd@yourgiftoflife.org and or leave a personal message for him at 1-800-745-3161. Keep up with him and read about how he is reaching out and making a difference in the lives of so many around the world at www.yourgiftoflife.org
