#Entrepreneurs face a higher risk for #suicidalthoughts. We need to talk about it.
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Almost a decade ago, I found my husband weeping in the glow of his computer screen. I wondered why Rob, a tech #entrepreneur with engineering degrees and trademark stoicism, was so visibly upset. “Aaron Swartz killed himself,” he sputtered.
Swartz, a 26-year-old software developer, helped build the web feed format RSS and joined Reddit as a partner six months after its founding. We didn’t know him personally. Still, the death by suicide of this serial #entrepreneur rocked Rob hard. I suspect he saw parts of himself in Swartz.
At the time, I was a psychology professor with a focus on traumatic #stress. I’ve since dedicated my career to entrepreneurial #mentalhealth. It can be a dangerous profession, psychologically speaking.
According to Dr. Michael Freeman, one of the only well-established #physicians to conduct research in this area, a startling 72% of #entrepreneurs report having #mentalhealthconcerns. There is no reliable data on #suicide rates or #suicidalideation among #entrepreneurs, although some have suggested that founders are two times more likely to have #suicidalthoughts.
If you were predisposed to any deadly disease at a rate higher than the rest of the population, you’d pay attention. #Entrepreneurs, we need to talk more about this risk.
Since Swartz’s death, many high-profile #entrepreneurs have died by #suicide or suspected #suicide: Unfiltered founder Jake Millar. Anti-virus software pioneer John McAfee. Zappos founder Tony Hsieh. Celebrity chef Anthony Bourdain. Handbag designer Kate Spade. The list goes on.
Through my own work, I’ve realized that highly competent founders and #entrepreneurs don’t talk about what they’re wrestling with. Once #entrepreneurs understand some of the factors contributing to this deadly silence, they can better recognize them in their own lives. One thing is for sure: The #stigma around this conversation is deadly. Here are some observations from my practice:
Related: Shifting the Narrative: #Entrepreneurs and #MentalHealth
#James Donaldson notes:
Welcome to the “next chapter” of my life… being a voice and an advocate for #mentalhealthawarenessandsuicideprevention, especially pertaining to our younger generation of students and student-athletes.
Getting men to speak up and reach out for help and assistance is one of my passions. Us men need to not suffer in silence or drown our sorrows in alcohol, hang out at bars and strip joints, or get involved with drug use.
Having gone through a recent bout of #depression and #suicidalthoughts myself, I realize now, that I can make a huge difference in the lives of so many by sharing my story, and by sharing various resources I come across as I work in this space. #http://bit.ly/JamesMentalHealthArticle
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Going it alone
#Suicidalthoughts are common. According to one study, 9.2% of people will experience #suicidalideation over their lifetimes. Data collected by the #CDC in an annual survey conducted from 2015-2019 shows that 4.3% of #American #adults reported having had #suicidalthoughts during the preceding year. One of the factors that make #entrepreneurs more vulnerable is that they tend to work in #isolation. Even surrounded by teams, many of my clients still feel out of sync with others as they take on the uniquely burdensome role of leading a company. Early-stage #entrepreneurs may literally work alone — without team members or sounding boards. What’s more, #entrepreneurs tend to build professional networks more than close social circles (i.e., networks before friendships). Most potential confidants have touchpoints in the business world. It’s often difficult to discuss deep vulnerabilities.
Prioritizing performance over health
Business and performance coaches can be fantastic resources, but they are not trained #mentalhealthproviders. Relying solely on this type of support becomes problematic if the focus is on the business first and the human second. Many #entrepreneurs work exclusively with business mentors, without a focus on their individual #psychological #health.
Suppressing #mentalhealth needs to prioritize business growth allows small psychological vulnerabilities to fester. I suggest we reverse that mentality: A well human creates a well business. Put #mentalhealth first, and trust that the gain will also amplify the business. That’s not always what’s in the water around #entrepreneurs.
Related: Tips for #Entrepreneurs to Fight #SuicidalThoughts
When thoughts become actions (or inaction)
Founders don’t just think, they act. They ideate and build. They put thoughts into motion. What is a company but a good idea, realized? Giving voice to #suicidalthoughts scares #entrepreneurs, because it makes dark ideas seem real, especially given the tendency to act readily to make ideations into realities. The opposite can also happen: a feeling of paralysis with no actions left.
#Entrepreneurs solve problems all day, every day. When the path forged starts to become impassable, like a maze with no exit, it can feel like there are no good choices. Intelligent, motivated professionals who rarely encounter unsolvable problems are not used to this feeling. It is jarring. It is paralyzing. The consequences of admitting this? #Entrepreneurs worry it might be perceived as a weakness that will affect the business. Feeling trapped very often precedes #suicidalthoughts.
Carrying more than your weight
Once investors, shareholders and employees are on board, it can suddenly dawn on #entrepreneurs just how many lives are hanging in the balance. Their companies are holding lives and livelihoods together. Under these circumstances, hiding vulnerabilities seems preferable. Many #entrepreneurs are so focused on their responsibilities to others that they deprioritize themselves.
Related: I’ve Had #SuicidalThoughts as an #Entrepreneur. Here’s How I Learned to Cope With #Depression.
Embrace preventative #mentalhealth
#Entrepreneurs must choose a less lonely path — build social circles, not just networking events. Learn to be vulnerable and share real feelings with supportive friends, a coach or a #therapist. There are many entrepreneur groups devoted to professional development, relationship-building and the human side of running a business.
Individually, embracing preventative #mentalhealthcare is essential. Make time to move your body, embrace unstructured play, find a hobby without a business angle, spend uninterrupted time with loved ones, and forge a long-term relationship with a #mentalhealthprofessional. And consider regular sabbaticals away from your daily work routine.
Talking about these issues, including suicidal thoughts, doesn’t make them more real. When you shine a light on them, it tends to diminish their power.
If you are in crisis, call or text 988 to connect with the 988 #Suicide & Crisis Lifeline. The lifeline provides 24-hour free and confidential support to anyone in distress, prevention and crisis resources for you or your loved ones, and best practices for professionals in the #UnitedStates.
James Donaldson is a Washington State University graduate (’79). After an outstanding basketball career with WSU, he went on to play professional basketball in the NBA with the Seattle Supersonics, San Diego/L.A. Clippers, Dallas Mavericks, New York Knicks, and Utah Jazz. He also played for several teams in the European Leagues in Spain, Italy, and Greece, and he toured with The Harlem Globetrotters to wrap up his career. James was an NBA All-Star in 1988 while playing center for the Dallas Mavericks. In 2006, James was inducted into the Pac-10 Sports Hall of Fame and also the Washington State University Athletic Hall of Fame. In 2010, James was elected as a board member for the NBA Retired Players Association.
James frequently conducts speaking engagements (motivational, inspirational, educational) for organizations, schools, and youth groups.
In 2010, James was the recipient of the NBA Legends of Basketball ABC Award, awarded for outstanding contributions in Athletics–Business–Community.
He believes in being a role model for success and professionalism to the scores of young people to whom he devotes so much of his time. He currently serves on several boards and committees and is a member of many organizations.
James believes in developing relationships that create a “Win-Win” environment for everyone involved, and in being the best he can be!
For more information about James Donaldson or to request he speak at your event, contact him at:
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James Donaldson is the author of “Standing Above The Crowd” and “Celebrating Your Gift of Life” and founder of the Your Gift of Life Foundation which focuses on mental health awareness and suicide prevention, especially pertaining to our school aged children and men.
If you’re interested in having James come and speak to your group of young adults, business entrepreneurs, aspiring political and community leaders, and athletic teams, please contact him at jamesd@yourgiftoflife.org and or leave a personal message for him at 1-800-745-3161. Keep up with him and read about how he is reaching out and making a difference in the lives of so many around the world at www.yourgiftoflife.org
