BY RACHEL BUEHNER
A recent spate of #suicides by #NCAA #studentathletes has raised awareness of the need for #mentalhealth check-ins by #coaches and #parents.
The recent #suicides of six #NCAA #student-athletes highlight the need for increased attention to the #mentalhealth of young people who participate in team #sports. #KatieMeyer, #JaydenHill, #ArlanaMiller, #SarahShulze, #RobertMartin, and #LaurenBernett were each successful, talented #athletes at their respective universities, with each choosing to end their lives. Interviews with the families of several of these young #adults suggest that the healthy appearances of each of these #athletes belied the fact that each was under enormous pressure that ultimately proved unbeatable. The worsening crisis in #mentalhealth among #adolescents and young #adults is not particular to those involved in #sports. Emergency room visits for #mentalhealthconcerns, including #suicideattempts, rose sharply among #adolescents during the #COVID-19 #pandemic, leading the #AmericanAcademyofPediatrics to declare a State of Emergency regarding #child and #adolescent #mentalhealth in October 2021. #Suicide is the second leading cause of death among #adolescents and young #adults, with nearly 1 in 5 #teens reporting having considered #suicide within the past year. #RachelBuehner At the #highschool and #college levels (and increasingly for #children in #middleschool), #athletes often experience tremendous and public pressure to perform perfectly to please #coaches, #parents, and to position themselves to advance and succeed to the next level. Families commonly spend thousands of dollars to ensure that children are able to pursue the highest echelons of training for their respective #sports. It is potentially tough on a young person to feel they’ve let a #parent down after a family commits time and money toward the player’s development. They may worry that making a mistake or missing a shot risks losing a parent’s love. Additionally, to keep one’s place on the team often means that the young person is tasked with performing well enough to remain in their program, at their #school, among their peers. Perhaps more than anything, the young #athlete often builds their identity around their #sport. According to licensed #psychologist Kevin Chapman, “If the way I perform in #sport is equated to who I am as a person, then negative performances will contribute to a vicious cycle of negative emotions and negative reactions to these emotions, often resulting in the perception that I am inadequate.” When a player’s performance suffers in their own eyes or in the eyes of the public (including #socialmedia followers), their body changes, or they’re simply not meeting their own standards for competitive excellence, the young person’s perfectionist identity may potentially rupture in an instant. Indeed, one common thread among those who have attempted #suicide, including several of those #NCAA #athletes mentioned previously, is that the decision to end their lives may have come quickly and impulsively. Louisville #psychologist Felicia Smith described “Whereas the driving factors behind #suicide are typically multi-determined and rarely the result on a sole motivator, common among them are feelings of #hopelessness and desperation. #ArlanaMiller, a 19-year-old cheerleader at Southern University and A&M College, wrote before her recent #suicide about her long history with #depression, despair, and #suicidalthoughts in an #Instagram post that is now circulating online, encouraging others to ‘get help always.’ #Suicide is a preventable public health problem, and #mentalhealthtreatment and education to raise awareness and reduce #stigma are essential to ensure that support is available for all young people in distress.
#James Donaldson notes:
Welcome to the “next chapter” of my life… being a voice and an advocate for #mentalhealthawarenessandsuicideprevention, especially pertaining to our younger generation of students and student-athletes.
Getting men to speak up and reach out for help and assistance is one of my passions. Us men need to not suffer in silence or drown our sorrows in alcohol, hang out at bars and strip joints, or get involved with drug use.
Having gone through a recent bout of #depression and #suicidalthoughts myself, I realize now, that I can make a huge difference in the lives of so many by sharing my story, and by sharing various resources I come across as I work in this space. #http://bit.ly/JamesMentalHealthArticle
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While many individuals do not disclose their struggles with #mentalhealth, #psychologist Tanya Stackhammer described the need to observe changes in #behavior and daily functioning which may signal when a problem arises. “Physical changes in appearance or hygiene, social withdrawal, increase in substance use, notable increases or decreases in need for sleep, lowered grades, poor work performance, or an increase in risky, reckless, or self-harm #behaviors, and #athletes may exhibit withdrawal, avoidance, or #isolation from team activities, seem uncharacteristically disengaged from their #sport, or exhibit a change in work/training performance. There are some clear #behaviors that indicate an individual is ‘making a plan’ which include putting their affairs in order and acquiring the means to die by #suicide. The general warning signs of suicidality can include changes in mood such as extreme #depression, burnout, or a sudden lift in spirits after a severe depressive episode. When a young person describes #hopelessness, having nothing to live for, or voices difficulty picturing their future, these can be signs of severe #depression and possible suicidal thinking. In #athletes, this may appear as not seeing a plan for themselves after they finish their #sport, and can be exacerbated by an injury or involuntary end to their playing career. #Coaches may feel that the topic of #mentalhealth is off-limits or too detached from their role in helping the player to win games, while #parents may worry that bringing up the topic of #suicide may make a young person more likely to consider the unthinkable. It’s helpful to know that talking about #depression and #suicide does not make people more suicidal. Additionally, #mentalhealth and performance improve when pressure is acknowledged and addressed with support. To gauge how #teens and young #adults are managing the balance of #sports and all life’s other demands, it’s helpful to use open-ended questions to allow the individual to express their own thoughts versus answering ‘yes or no’ questions. For example, “Tell me about the pressure that you’re feeling.” This gives the opportunity for the player to feel safe verbalizing their feelings without worrying that they will get in trouble or lose playing time. Opening a conversation about a #student-athlete’s well-being once warning signs are observed can be as simple as saying “I’ve noticed you seem distressed lately. I am concerned about you and I care about how you’re doing.” Another way of ascertaining how safe the #adolescent or young #adult is would be to ask how willing the individual would be to seek help in the future from a #coach, family member, friend, or #counselor should they ever experience #depression or #suicidalthoughts. This gives an opportunity to figure out a safety plan, and to establish for the person that the door is open if they need support in the future. #MayisMentalHealthAwarenessMonth. To adequately address the #mentalhealth crisis among our #student-athletes, every #parent, #coach, and loved one should be ready to open and continue the conversation about competitive pressure, #depression, and #suicide, to plan for safety, and to communicate to the young person that their value to the world far exceeds their playing statistics. There is much more life to live after the game. Rachel Buehner, Ph.D. is past president of the Kentucky Psychological Association.
If you or someone you know is experiencing suicidal thoughts, seek help immediately by calling the #NationalSuicidePreventionHotline at 800-273-8255. The Kentucky Psychological Association will present a free webinar “Addressing the #Suicide Crisis Among #Student-Athletes: A Playbook for Families and Coaches” on June 17, 2022 from 11:00am-12:00pm EDT. Please visit www.kpa.org for more information.
Read more at: https://www.kentucky.com/opinion/op-ed/article261631517.html#storylink=cpy
James Donaldson is a Washington State University graduate (’79). After an outstanding basketball career with WSU, he went on to play professional basketball in the NBA with the Seattle Supersonics, San Diego/L.A. Clippers, Dallas Mavericks, New York Knicks, and Utah Jazz. He also played for several teams in the European Leagues in Spain, Italy, and Greece, and he toured with The Harlem Globetrotters to wrap up his career. James was an NBA All-Star in 1988 while playing center for the Dallas Mavericks. In 2006, James was inducted into the Pac-10 Sports Hall of Fame and also the Washington State University Athletic Hall of Fame. In 2010, James was elected as a board member for the NBA Retired Players Association.
James frequently conducts speaking engagements (motivational, inspirational, educational) for organizations, schools, and youth groups.
In 2010, James was the recipient of the NBA Legends of Basketball ABC Award, awarded for outstanding contributions in Athletics–Business–Community.
He believes in being a role model for success and professionalism to the scores of young people to whom he devotes so much of his time. He currently serves on several boards and committees and is a member of many organizations.
James believes in developing relationships that create a “Win-Win” environment for everyone involved, and in being the best he can be!
For more information about James Donaldson or to request he speak at your event, contact him at:
www.StandingAboveTheCrowd.com
JamesD@StandingAboveTheCrowd.com
1-800-745-3161 (voicemail & fax)
James Donaldson is the author of “Standing Above The Crowd” and “Celebrating Your Gift of Life” and founder of the Your Gift of Life Foundation which focuses on mental health awareness and suicide prevention, especially pertaining to our school aged children and men.
If you’re interested in having James come and speak to your group of young adults, business entrepreneurs, aspiring political and community leaders, and athletic teams, please contact him at jamesd@yourgiftoflife.org and or leave a personal message for him at 1-800-745-3161. Keep up with him and read about how he is reaching out and making a difference in the lives of so many around the world at www.yourgiftoflife.org
