A Newark #policeofficer holds the hat of Newark #Police Detective Michael Morgan during his funeral procession at Saint Lucy?s Roman Catholic Church in Newark, N.J. Saturday, Nov. 12, 2011
The biggest threat to #lawenforcement #officers –and often, their families– is not any armed criminal. It is themselves.
Miami-Dade Police Director Alfredo “Freddy” Ramirez now stands as a tragic example of where #mentalhealth and policing intersect. He remains at Tampa General Hospital after shooting himself in the head Sunday night with his service revolver. Before he shot himself, he had his hands around his wife’s throat, media reports say.
“This incident is also a tragic reminder of the critical role that #mentalhealth plays in our #lawenforcement #officers’ well-being,” said Miami-Dade Mayor Daniella Levine Cava at a news conference on Wednesday.
“The reality is that these jobs are very demanding. They’re stressful and they’re emotionally taxing. They often require #officers to put their lives on the line.”
Ramirez had called Levine Cava, distressed, and offered to resign around 8:30 p.m. Sunday. There had been an incident at the Marriott Tampa Water Street.
Ramirez was seen with his hands on his wife’s throat, the Miami Herald reported. Somebody called the #police because they heard he had put his gun in his mouth. And then he and his wife were asked to leave the hotel for causing a disturbance.
After speaking with Levine Cava around 8:30 p.m., Ramirez shot himself in the head, the bullet reportedly exiting his eye.
“Before #COVID, #suicide was the number one cause of death of in law enforcement,” said Steadman Stahl, president of South Florida #Police Benevolent Association.
#First-responders across the board are at risk – #policeofficers, #firefighters, EMTs, 911 operators. All must deal with tragedy on a routine basis. Shootings, horrific car accidents, drownings, drug overdoses, #childabuse.
“How do you go out day in, and day out throughout your career, and experience these types of situations?” said Al Eskanazy, founding chairman and CEO of the Miami Beach-based Community #Police Relations Foundation. “The emotional turmoil that has is incredible.”
Key Biscayne Fire Chief Eric Lang said there are “peer supporters” to address #mentalhealth in the department
“In the old days, you just kind of sucked it up and didn’t say anything, you carried it with you. Now we talk about it a little bit more, we have these resources available,” Lang said.
But sometimes those resources aren’t enough.
Ramirez’s predecessor – Robert Parker – killed himself in 2015 after he retired from the department, also shooting himself in the head.
Another top cop and former Mayor –Carlos Alvarez — was accused of #domesticviolence. But charges were dropped in 2016 when his ex-girlfriend, Evelyn Fernandez, a Miami-Dade #police lieutenant, did not show up for trial.
Ramirez knew all the #mental pitfalls the job entailed. “You can take the uniform but the experiences that you go through stay with you,” Ramirez told Miami television station WPLG in December 2021
Ramirez said he would compartmentalize his #stress and would never ask for help. He made it a priority to provide counseling for his #officers and Miami-Dade police has a robust #mentalhealth unit, Eskanazy and Stahl said.
But as director, Ramirez faced a whole new kind of #stress. He was named by Levine Cava to lead the department in 2020. She then named him in 2022 to oversee the fire-rescue department.
He shepherded the department during the height of the #COVID #pandemic.
He managed the department during the fallout and nationwide protests following the death of George Floyd. Then, the Surfside condominium Champlain Towers South collapsed, killing 98.
“The guy never really caught a break on anything,” Stahl said.
“Freddy is the type of leader, the type of man, who bears the burdens of those around him,” Levine Cava said. “He carries the weight of his department.”
Everything just unraveled for Ramirez while attending the Sheriffs conference. Tampa #police around 6:30 p.m. on Sunday arrived after reports of threatening to harm himself with a gun.
Ramirez denied he put his gun to his head and told #officers he was just arguing with his wife. But the couple had caused so much of a disturbance that the Marriott hotel asked them to leave.
That put Ramirez and his wife of 28 years, Jody, on Interstate 75 back home to Miami. There was a call to the mayor – and then tragedy.
Ramirez wasn’t known as one of these tough-as-nails irascible lawmen. He was affable. He played guitar. And – like in the WPLG interview – very open to talk about hard issues.
When Eskanazy first heard bits and pieces of what happened, he thought it was a joke – but then learned the horrifying truth.
“I just started crying,” he said. “I’m a pretty tough guy – born and raised in the streets of the Bronx. This just broke me.”
Stahl said he remains bewildered. He considers Ramirez a friend. “We would never have expected that, ” he said.
Lang added, “He was just like this random normal guy that people connected with. He needed help. He couldn’t get help. Everybody’s really moved by this.”
There are organizations to help for both #officers and family members of #cops who are subjected to the #stress.
Blue H.E.L.P., formed in 2015, keeps track of #suicides and offers resources.
Eskanazy’s #non-profit aims to bring law enforcement and distressed communities together.\
“You can either allow that circumstance to deteriorate, or you can use it as an opportunity to understand it and grow from it,” he said.
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Stahl said it is important to change the stoic mindset of officers “that it is OK not to be OK. It’s OK to ask for help.” Still, there are concerns that by reaching for help it could be used against them by the media or as they try to move up in rank.
“We are changing that mindset,” Stahl said.
Stahl was traveling back Tuesday from Tampa where he visited with the Ramirez family.
“They’re sticking together. They’re strong,” he said. “They just want to get the director home. There is great love among the family.”
James Donaldson is a Washington State University graduate (’79). After an outstanding basketball career with WSU, he went on to play professional basketball in the NBA with the Seattle Supersonics, San Diego/L.A. Clippers, Dallas Mavericks, New York Knicks, and Utah Jazz. He also played for several teams in the European Leagues in Spain, Italy, and Greece, and he toured with The Harlem Globetrotters to wrap up his career. James was an NBA All-Star in 1988 while playing center for the Dallas Mavericks. In 2006, James was inducted into the Pac-10 Sports Hall of Fame and also the Washington State University Athletic Hall of Fame. In 2010, James was elected as a board member for the NBA Retired Players Association.
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