80% of all completed suicides in the U.S. are by #men.
Those who struggle with #mentalhealth or #substanceabuse are more likely to think about #suicide.
Consistent and open conversations about #mentalhealth are key — even when life feels OK.
For most people, opening up about #mentalhealth isn’t fun. It can feel vulnerable, uncomfortable and — let’s be real — terrifying, especially if you have any dark thoughts.
And while many people struggle to talk about their #mentalhealth, data shows #men aren’t talking enough about it.
In fact, people aged 65 and older are more likely to die by #suicide than any other age group —?for both #men and #women.
So, what needs to change? Well, both #men and their loved ones need to try to break the silence and begin talking about #mentalhealth — before it becomes don’t-do-or-die.
Men’s #mentalhealthcrisis
Let’s be honest: Fewer #men generally access their #healthcare options than other #genders, not because there aren’t resources, but because many #men opt out of their routine healthcare.
“Some of my #male #patients are very good health advocates for themselves. Others are certainly … less so. In those cases, I do think there’s a #mental construct of ‘self-sufficiency’ for some #men that prevents them from asking for help,” says Amory.
In 2021, the overall life expectancy for #men dropped from 74.2 years to 73.2 years. And to bring this back to #mentalhealth, the rate of #suicide was the third-most reason for this decline in life expectancy, only behind deaths from #COVID-19 and unintentional injuries.
Out of these causes of death, only one is entirely preventable, and that’s #suicide.
Knowing the facts can help give some perspective on why this out-of-sight, out-of-mind perspective isn’t helping men’s #mentalhealth.
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#Psychosis and #schizophrenia: 90% of those diagnosed with #schizophrenia by age 30 are #men.
#Eatingdisorders: 10% of #patients with #anorexia or #bulimia are #men, and 35% of #patients with binge-#eatingdisorder are #men.
While these are the general statistics, the truth is, many #men who suffer from #mentalhealthconditions or #eatingdisorders remain undiagnosed, leading to their conditions worsening. It’s thought that the perceptions around gender and the way #men are socialized from a young age are part of the issue.
This could mean that men mask their feelings of #depression or #anxiety because of the #stigma around #men and their emotions. Needing help isn’t seen as “masculine,” but suffering in silence shouldn’t be the answer. #Men of color are even less likely to seek or receive help.
“There’s an ethos that #men should ‘tough it out’ and that getting #mentalhealth care isn’t ‘manly.’ Obviously, this approach is not working,” says Amory.
It’s also untrue that #men don’t want to talk about their #mentalhealth or other struggles. Because of these gender socializations and, sometimes, personal preferences, it’s just about creating the right environment to talk to men about their #mentalhealth in a way that feels safe and organic.
If your loved one isn’t talking about his #mentalhealthissues, it can be hard to find a place to start. And while you might be coming from a place of worry, support and love, remember that this conversation isn’t about you or how you’re feeling. Steer clear of accusations around their actions or feelings, and instead, start with observations.
Tell them what you’ve been noticing. This can look like:
I’ve noticed [#behavior or feeling] lately and wanted to check in.
When did you start feeling this way?
How are you managing?
Do you have anyone to talk to about this?
Validate how they’re feeling, but don’t offer advice. Instead, you can offer support and resources.
Suggest a trip to the #doctor
Going to the #doctor might not seem like #mentalhealthcare, but it’s possible that a medical condition, such as low testosterone, could cause some symptoms of #depression. #Anxiety and other symptoms could also be side effects of medications or medical conditions, so a full workup is a great place to start.
If it’s his first appointment to talk about his #mentalhealth, offer to go with him. If he’d rather go alone, let him know you’re there for him when he needs support.
When #patients come into Amory’s office with concerns, he says he tries to do a lot of the heavy work in facilitating the conversation to make his #patients feel more comfortable.
“I often see #men visibly relax after we start to discuss these issues openly,” says Amory.
But if the #doctor doesn’t seem to be leading the conversation, encourage your loved one say something clear and honest like, “I’ve been having a lot of #anxiety lately, and would like to know what my options are.”
Ask what he needs
Everyone opens up on their own terms and requires different methods of support. Don’t assume someone needs a specific type of help, such as medication or therapy. In addition, don’t be afraid to directly ask: Are you thinking about #suicide? It’s a myth that the question will give them the idea. In fact, it could give them the much-needed opportunity to talk about their thoughts.
If he won’t open up
You can say and do all the right things, but at the end of the day, it’s up to your loved one to decide when they’re ready to open up and seek support for their #mentalhealth. Someone might not open up for a variety of reasons, from not knowing what to say, to shame or fear.
And while all of this might be frustrating, remember — this is about him, not how you’re feeling. Respect his decision to not open up, and in the meantime, you can continue to be a support by offering a safe space to talk when he’s ready, by spending quality time with him, or offering to help him with tasks.
Finally, if someone tells you they’re thinking about #suicide, have an open and honest conversation. From there, you can work with them and their loved ones to decide the best course of action.
Talking about #mentalhealth is an extremely vulnerable act, but it can make a huge difference in someone’s life — it might even help save it.
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James Donaldson is a Washington State University graduate (’79). After an outstanding basketball career with WSU, he went on to play professional basketball in the NBA with the Seattle Supersonics, San Diego/L.A. Clippers, Dallas Mavericks, New York Knicks, and Utah Jazz. He also played for several teams in the European Leagues in Spain, Italy, and Greece, and he toured with The Harlem Globetrotters to wrap up his career. James was an NBA All-Star in 1988 while playing center for the Dallas Mavericks. In 2006, James was inducted into the Pac-10 Sports Hall of Fame and also the Washington State University Athletic Hall of Fame. In 2010, James was elected as a board member for the NBA Retired Players Association.
James frequently conducts speaking engagements (motivational, inspirational, educational) for organizations, schools, and youth groups.
In 2010, James was the recipient of the NBA Legends of Basketball ABC Award, awarded for outstanding contributions in Athletics–Business–Community.
He believes in being a role model for success and professionalism to the scores of young people to whom he devotes so much of his time. He currently serves on several boards and committees and is a member of many organizations.
James believes in developing relationships that create a “Win-Win” environment for everyone involved, and in being the best he can be!
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James Donaldson is the author of “Standing Above The Crowd” and “Celebrating Your Gift of Life” and founder of the Your Gift of Life Foundation which focuses on mental health awareness and suicide prevention, especially pertaining to our school aged children and men.
If you’re interested in having James come and speak to your group of young adults, business entrepreneurs, aspiring political and community leaders, and athletic teams, please contact him at jamesd@yourgiftoflife.org and or leave a personal message for him at 1-800-745-3161. Keep up with him and read about how he is reaching out and making a difference in the lives of so many around the world at www.yourgiftoflife.org
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